Many of us believe that we must earn our status, self-worth, or value to others. Whether your false belief is that you are not smart enough, or rich enough, or attractive enough, the key word “enough” is a judgment. Being “enough” of anything is a standard created by others to which we try to measure up. It’s the identification with those outside norms that can create the self-judgment, blame and shame we feel when we believe we are not enough just as we are.
That standard of “enough” is also a statement of ego, as Eckart Tolle says. “It’s an unconscious attempt to cover up or remove the deep-seated feelings that always accompany the ego: the discontent, the unhappiness, the sense of insufficiency that is so familiar.” The false belief that “I am not enough” is just a thought, with only the power we assign to it. The reasons these false beliefs appear are many and varied, beyond the scope of this brief post.
The ego gives false information when it whispers “not enough.” As in the quote by Lisa Prosen, the ability to be true to your own nature means that you are enough and sufficient just as you are. The key is to release old negative images and messages that have been internalized.
Try taking an inventory. Make an objective list of positive qualities and successes taking place in this present moment.
- I am a good enough parent.
- I am patient.
- I was commended at work for doing ____
- That stranger complimented me on my smile today.
Do you believe these to be true? Do you understand that these are examples of how you show up as “enough” in your life?
Maintain a level of compassion and understanding about yourself and your good enough qualities. You are enough, you are sufficient, just as you are.