Are You Anxious Or Dissatisfied In Your Sex Life?
Do you feel ashamed or embarrassed about your sexual urges, desires and fantasies? Are you uncomfortable expressing intimate thoughts and needs to yourself or your partner? Is a sexual disorder or dysfunction robbing you of the confidence needed to find or feel satisfied with a sex partner? Or, are you and your partner struggling to create a physically and emotionally intimate connection? Perhaps one of you is always dictating when you have sex or you are struggling to communicate conflicting sexual desires and needs. You may feel anxiety or shame around urges and fantasies that are often considered taboo.
A history of sexual trauma, abuse or a sexual disorder can often make seeking out a new partner challenging. These issues can also make it difficult to feel secure and confident in a current sexual relationship. You may be struggling with a physical condition like impotence, premature ejaculation, difficulty achieving orgasms, lack of or hyperactive sex drive or a sexually transmitted disease. Or you might be sexually healthy but feel unhappy or uncomfortable with your body. Eating disorders, gender dysphoria, a negative body image (body dysmorphia) and uncertainty about sexual orientation can be difficult topics to discuss, but they can all contribute to sexual dissatisfaction. Do you wish you could feel confident with your sexuality and have more satisfying and fulfilling sexual experiences?
Countless Individuals Struggle To Communicate Sexual Needs And Desires
When dealing with a problem in your sex life it can feel like you are the only one who is suffering. This can make it difficult to find someone whom you trust enough to discuss the issue. However, according to a study performed by the Women’s Sexual Health Foundation, 72 percent of women said they would feel comfortable talking to a healthcare provider about sexual problems – so long as the provider is the one who raises the issue with them. The truth is that countless individuals and couples struggle with sexual dysfunction, but most people aren’t comfortable communicating their sexual history and problems.
The good news is that sex therapy can help you understand and communicate your situation, feel confident in your sexuality and experience healthy sexual intimacy and satisfaction.
Sex Therapy Can Help You Feel Sexually Confident And Healthy
I can help you work through sexual challenges and go on to lead a healthier, more fulfilling sex life. I will help you understand that there are a wide range of sexual experiences and ways to bring pleasure to yourself and your partner(s). I will work with you to overcome feelings of anxiety or shame you may have about your own sexual challenges, needs or desires. Our focus is on helping you find greater sexual health and pleasure.
I believe that effective sex therapy must address your needs as a whole person: mind, body and soul. Part of overcoming many sexual challenges is educating yourself on what is “common” – how many times it is “common” to have an orgasm in one sexual encounter, for example. This allows you to define your needs, goals and expectations more clearly. I will teach you how to use mindfulness to have fulfilling sexual experiences. When you can remove distractions and truly be in the moment with your partner, you open yourself to new, deeper forms of sexual intimacy and satisfaction. If you are or you were the victim of sexual trauma or abuse, I may introduce somatic therapies and EMDR, two methods proven effective in helping individuals recover from physical and emotional trauma. Additionally, if there is a physical or physiological component to the issues you are dealing with, with your permission I will be in touch with your appropriate healthcare professionals such as your physician, OB/GYN or psychiatrist so that your other health care provider(s) and I can be a team that assists you in reaching your goals.
During your therapy sessions, I will help you develop appropriate goals and strategies to understand and work through the challenges you are facing. I tailor your sex therapy treatment to your unique situation and needs. I may use a variety of approaches to help you find sexual health and satisfaction. At the beginning of our work together, I may want to review with you your sexual history and upbringing. One of my goals for you is to trace sexual dysfunction or anxiety back to its origin, understanding what experiences may have shaped your sexuality as a child. Additionally, a lack of communication during physical intimacy may be contributing to a sexual disconnect with your partner(s). Many of my clients bring their partners in with them at some point during sex therapy to work on the communication issues around their sexual concerns. When you recognize your own story more clearly, it is possible to reframe it in a healthier, more positive way and communicate your sexual needs and desires more effectively.
Discussing your sexual challenges, needs and desires requires a great deal of trust. At Soul Wisdom Therapy, I listen deeply–with empathy and compassion- to you and your concerns. I understand that it may take a few sessions before you feel safe enough to trust me with your most intimate problems and goals. But, when you’re ready, I will be there to provide support and guidance as you learn what you want and need to feel sexually healthy. You CAN feel more balanced and integrated – physically, emotionally and spiritually – as a sexual being.
I have been assisting individuals and couples like you to understand and manage sexual challenges and dysfunction for many years. You can overcome feelings of anxiety or shame that have left you withdrawn and learn to establish and maintain physical and emotional intimacy. With effective sex therapy, you can feel sexually healthy and satisfied.
But you may still have questions or concerns about sex therapy…
I’m too embarrassed to talk about my sexuality.
In our society, discussing sex and sexuality is often considered taboo. You may want to talk about your sexuality and the challenges you are facing, but you feel too ashamed or embarrassed. I offer a judgment free, compassionate space where you can feel safe exploring and expressing your sexual needs and desires.
How can you really know what I need to feel more satisfied sexually?
I use a variety of different exercises and approaches to help you come up with your own answers. I will tailor the sex goals and strategies that you and I have developed to your specific needs so that you can understand why you have a problem and feel confident that you can get past it.
I’m afraid sex therapy will reveal fantasies, urges or experiences about my partner that I can’t accept.
My goal with sex therapy is to help you build understanding and confidence around your needs, desires and sexuality. But there is always the potential that you may discover something about your partner that makes you question the bond you share. I promise to offer you a safe environment to work through these issues if they arise. And, when you are committed to your relationship, you might be surprised to find that you are willing to take more risks.
You Can Have A Satisfying Sex Life
Are you ready to start working toward a healthier, more fulfilling sex life? For answers to any remaining questions you may have about sex therapy, I invite you to schedule a free 20-minute phone consultation at 916-491-1216.
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