17th century poet John Donne is credited with the phrase “no man is an island.” Even the most self-reliant of us is affected by family, friends, coworkers, acquaintances, even pets.  In our modern age, this phrase rings more true as we consider the effect of the media on our moods and emotions.

Let’s revisit Joe, our example in an earlier post – when we “met” him, Joe was filled with resentment and anger. Although his negative emotions stemmed from his perception of the world around him, he was also influenced by the negative emotions of those around him in the workplace. Many of us find ourselves in similar relationships but are not in a position to change our surroundings. We can, however, change our reaction to our surroundings, as we learned from Joe’s example.

Think about your own immediate circle of relationships. What is the overall mood or attitude of these people? Are they mutually supportive? Positive and generally happy? Or are they sour, angry or resentful as Joe was?  How might their own circles influence them in turn?

Energy attracts like energy, and when we stand strong in respect and love, we naturally tend to attract those with similar values. And as Joe learned, our own negativity can attract more of that from others. A regular understanding and practice of self-love helps us remain aware of how those relationships influence us. The stronger our love for ourselves, the less we take in the moods and emotions of others.

We can surround ourselves with those who genuinely care about our well-being. We can share in and expand the soul-energy of self-love and self-respect.

Relieve yourself from the naysayers and joy stealers. Seek out and nurture those relationships that bring out the best in you!