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Attachments: the Avoidant Style
I’ve been discussing how psychological attachment styles affect our development and our adult relationships. This post covers The Avoidant style, the child who learns early in life that her needs will usually not be met by a caregiver, and she becomes self-sufficient, avoiding dependence and interaction with others. The avoidance can be an effective defense,
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Attachments: The Secure Style
In my last post I provided a basic understanding of Attachment Styles. Now I will cover the healthiest of the relationships: the Secure Attachment Style, in which the majority of adults are classified. An infant who has a steady, secure relationship with a primary caregiver learns that she can depend on others for consistent behavior.
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Attachment Styles and Relationships
In mental health care, the term “attachment” refers to how you relate to other people in your life. In infancy and early youth you formed an attachment style which stays with you and affects your most intimate relationships – and in fact can determine your own parenting style. The more you understand your attachment style,
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Is It Time to Take Off the Labels?
Our society thrives on labels … Asian, thin, Catholic, short, autistic, shy, gay, Black, Jewish … and these labels are how society segregates us and tries to make sense of us. Most of the time these labels create problems and stereotypes which reduce the whole person into false categories. As Price Ea says in the
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What Does It Mean to Self-Soothe?
As a followup to our earlier post on sleep, let’s talk about what it means to soothe oneself, whether as a relaxation technique or as a sleep inducer. Self-soothing is by definition providing comfort and nurturing to yourself. Many of us have heard about teaching infants to quiet themselves into sleep. As adults, we can
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Five Aids for Great Sleep
Sleep is the greatest healer of mind, body and spirit. Human and animal bodies must have a restorative time when consciousness is suspended, but our nervous and endocrine systems are very active. Your brain activity reduces in the areas controlling decisions, emotion, and social activity, while it increases in the areas which control memory, learning
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16 Ways to Describe Your Personality
In the conclusion of our study on the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), I will summarize what you’ve learned about the various pairings described by the MBTI by explaining the 4-letter coding the Indicator uses to describe our unique personality traits. As you have seen, various personality traits are encoded by using letters: (Extraversion (E)
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How Does Your World See You?
In this fourth in the series on the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), I will cover what the MBTI describes as your “outer life,” or how you prefer to interact with the world around you, your demeanor. The MBTI says, “Some people interact with the outside world when they are taking in information. Whether they
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Do You Make Snap Decisions?
I hope you have been enjoying this series of posts on the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). Think about how you make decisions. Is it easy for you? Do you make snap judgments or take time to consider the possibilities? In today’s post we will talk about the decision-making pair of Thinking vs. Feeling. When
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How Do You Process Information?
In this series of posts I have focused on the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) and its relevance to our personal and professional lives. In this blog post I will delve into the second pairing – the preferred information-processing spectrum of Sensing vs. Intuiting. The Sensor generally believes information he or she receives from the
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Are You Introverted or Extroverted?
In the last post, Idescribed the basic tenet of The Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) and its relevance to our personal and professional lives. In this post I will delve into the first pairing – Extroversion vs. Introversion. First, it is important to note that these are not absolute scales. All of us differ on
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What is Your Personality Type?
Most people know that Carl Jung is credited with being the “father” of modern psychology. He described human nature as falling within groupings of traits that describe how we interact with the world and each other, our different ways of being. There are four basic scales, and within each we show a preference for one