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Experience a River of Peace
Love and peace start from the inside – you cannot express what you do not feel! I have written about how to “do kindness” in a past post, encouraging you to allow kindness to flow from within into outward expression through even the smallest act of kindness. The seeds of love and peace come from…
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The Value of Patience in Healing
“How poor are they that have not patience! What wound did ever heal but by degrees?” ~ Othello, William Shakespeare. Consider the truth of this line from Othello. When your skin is cut, the process of healing begins to grow new cells, remove damaged ones, and fill in the cut. Occasionally a scar remains if…
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Eating Disorders – Anorexia
To conclude our study of eating disorders, I will tackle anorexia. As with other eating disorders, anorexia stems from a wide variety of emotional, mental, spiritual, and mental causes, although a specific trigger is not yet know. It is characterized by a strong fear of gaining weight and a mis-perception of one’s own body image.…
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Eating Disorders: Bulimia
In my last post, I discussed a more newly-identified eating disorder, Orthorexia, an obsession with healthy eating that sometimes so severely limits food intake that it leads to health problems. Let’s continue now with a discussion of Bulimia. As with many eating disorders, Bulimia involves a distortion of the body image. There are two kinds…
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A Study of Eating Disorders – Orthorexia
As part of the Soul Wisdom Therapy focus on the whole self, I will begin a post series on eating disorders with a little-known (and more newly defined) condition known as Orthorexia. The American Psychiatric Association has not classified Orthorexia as an eating disorder, however many therapists and nutritionists recognize the symptoms in their patients…
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Attachments: Disorganized Attachment
I hope you’ve been learning from this series on Attachment styles, which we will conclude with this post on the Disorganized Attachment Style. This most extreme behavioral style stems from the most dysfunctional upbringing. Parents who generate a Disorganized Attachment Style in a child may be abusive, or may have learned from the fear in…
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Attachments: The Ambivalent Style
If you have been following this series of posts on personality attachment styles, you will have a basic understanding of the theory that relationship patterns learned in infancy carry over into adult relationships. We have explored the Secure style (as associated with the majority of people) and the Avoidant style. Now let us go into…
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Attachments: the Avoidant Style
I’ve been discussing how psychological attachment styles affect our development and our adult relationships. This post covers The Avoidant style, the child who learns early in life that her needs will usually not be met by a caregiver, and she becomes self-sufficient, avoiding dependence and interaction with others. The avoidance can be an effective defense,…
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Attachments: The Secure Style
In my last post I provided a basic understanding of Attachment Styles. Now I will cover the healthiest of the relationships: the Secure Attachment Style, in which the majority of adults are classified. An infant who has a steady, secure relationship with a primary caregiver learns that she can depend on others for consistent behavior.…
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Attachment Styles and Relationships
In mental health care, the term “attachment” refers to how you relate to other people in your life. In infancy and early youth you formed an attachment style which stays with you and affects your most intimate relationships – and in fact can determine your own parenting style. The more you understand your attachment style,…
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Is It Time to Take Off the Labels?
Our society thrives on labels … Asian, thin, Catholic, short, autistic, shy, gay, Black, Jewish … and these labels are how society segregates us and tries to make sense of us. Most of the time these labels create problems and stereotypes which reduce the whole person into false categories. As Price Ea says in the…
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What Does It Mean to Self-Soothe?
As a followup to our earlier post on sleep, let’s talk about what it means to soothe oneself, whether as a relaxation technique or as a sleep inducer. Self-soothing is by definition providing comfort and nurturing to yourself. Many of us have heard about teaching infants to quiet themselves into sleep. As adults, we can…